Last night my daughter was telling me her boyfriend problems and how it seems like he has “cooled off” towards her. We had the conversation of "what does this mean and what should she do," etc. Should she withdraw too? Should she ask him? The endless mind loop of trying to strategize a relationship. After a while, she looked at me and said, “Wait, why does there have to be so much effort?”
Well what a great reminder from the wisdom of Lana! She is exactly right. If there is effort, there is resistance and that is the path we are not looking for. It is a sure sign to turn in another direction where there is ease, where there is a flow, where it feels good, where it is natural. Sometimes we get addicted to those things that keep us constantly trying to swim upstream.
This is such a kind universe when we see that what we are supposed to be doing with our lives is exactly what is effortless and what feels good. What an incredible design.